July 13, 2021
by LaVerne H. Collins, Ph.D., LPC, LCMHC, NCC
There’s a lot to be said for making a series of small changes to your life and taking your time. It’s an effective way of changing your life with a minimal amount of stress. But, what if your life is in such a mess that you’re willing to risk being uncomfortable to have a chance of changing your life quickly? In this case, there’s another option.
If you want to make big changes quickly, you can do a hard reset. Doing a hard reset on your cell phone erases everything and allows you to start over from scratch. You can do the same thing in your life if you’re tough enough.
A hard reset can be in just one part of your life or can encompass several aspects of your life.
Examples of hard resets include:
● Changing careers
● Ending a relationship
● Moving to a new city
● Losing a dramatic amount of weight
Hard resets are big, serious, and require a lot of time and focus.
- Have a vision for what you want to accomplish. A big change requires a big and clear goal. What change do you want to make to your life?
● Do you want to move to the beach?
● Find someone that is a better match for you?
● Quit your job and go back to school?
● Lose 75 pounds?
● Run a marathon?
- Clear the junk out of your life. This includes possessions, people, and obligations that don’t add significantly to your life. People carry too much dead weight through life. Big goals require sacrifices to be made. You might have to cut-off your high school friend, quit going out every Saturday night, or limit internet surfing time.
- Decide on the most important actions to take. We like to be busy. It feels like we’re doing something. But we don’t necessarily like to do the most effective tasks, because they’re uncomfortable or inconvenient. That mentality isn’t an option if you’re doing a hard reset. You have to be tough on yourself.
● Cutting off your food after dinner and taking a walk is a lot more effective than eating low-fat artificially sweetened brownies on the couch.
● Approaching five interesting strangers each day is more effective than rewriting your personal FB profile for the 8th time.
● Cold calling is more effective than tweaking your website that no one visits anyway.
● Find the most effective actions and focus on those.
- Schedule your time. You have 168 hours in the next week. If you sleep for 7 hours each night, that leaves 119 hours. If you’re working 40 hours a week, you still have another 79 hours left to use as well as you can. Even if you work 60 hours, that’s still a lot of time left over!
● Make a plan for each day.
● Each night, make an even better plan.
● Execute your plan.
- Realize the truth. If you’re spending all of your available time taking the most effective actions, how could you not be supremely successful at what you’re trying to accomplish?
● Success isn’t a secret. It’s just that the obvious path to success looks miserable to most people.
The only issue you really have is yourself. With time, intention, and a little courage, it’s possible to make dramatic changes to your life very quickly.
A hard reset isn’t for everyone. Many people would have better success making small changes over the course of several months.
On the other hand, some people are capable of moving faster and handling more pressure.
Which type of person are you? Go for it, in the way that works best for you. Either way, you’ll see success.